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Is it just me or does this line hit different when you remember that David Tennant actually has a non-binary kid who uses they/them pronouns, and has worn this non-binary rainbow pin to a bunch of interviews —
uh... holy shit, guys? guess this one was a hit
Anyway,
in the words of the great David Tennant:
Leave Trans Kids Alone You Absolute Freaks 🏳️⚧️⚧🏳️🌈
Do Not Let HR do this to you. It is not illegal to talk about wages in the work place. I did and got a 12% raise!
True info. Now let me add something: The power of documentation. (I was a long time steward in a nurses union.)
Remember: The "'E" in email stands for evidence.
That cuts both ways. Be careful what you put into an email. It never really goes away and can be used against you.
But can also be a powerful tool for workplace fairness.
Case 1: Your supervisor asks you to do something you know is either illegal or against company policy. A verbal request. If things go wrong, you can count on them denying that they ever told you to do that. You go back to your desk, or wherever and you send them an email: "I just want to make sure that I understood correctly that you want me to do xxxxx" Quite often, once they see it in writing, they will change their mind about having you do it. If not, you have documentation.
Case 2: You have a schedule you like, you've had that schedule for a while, it works for you. Your supervisor comes to you and says "We're really short-handed now and I need you to change your schedule just for a month until we can get someone else hired. It's just temporary and you can have your old schedule back after a month." A month goes by and they forget entirely that they made that promise to you. So, once again, when they make the initial request, you send them an email "I'm happy to help out temporarily, but just want to make sure I understand correctly that I will get my old schedule back after a month as you promised." Documentation.
[Image ID: Text reading: In the middle of a busy clinic at our practice, I got pulled in by my manager to speak to HR, who must have made a special trip because she lives several states away, and told I was being 'investigated' for discussing wages with my other employees. She told me it was against company policy to discuss wages.
Me; That's illegal.
Them: (start italics) three slow, long seconds of staring at me blankly (end italics) Uh...
Me: That's an illegal policy to have. The right to discuss wages is a right protected by the National Labor Relations board. I used to be in a union. I know this.
HR: Oh, this is news to me! I have been working HR for 18 years and I never knew that. Haha. Well try not do do it anyway, it makes people upset, haha.
Me: people are entitled to their opinions about what their work is worth. Bye.
I then left, and sent her several texts and emails saying I would like a copy of their company policy to see where this wage discussion policy was kept. She quickly called me back in to her office.
HR: You know what, there is no policy like that in the handbook! I double check. Sorry about the confusion, my apologies.
Me: You still haven't given me the paper saying that we had this discussion. I am going to need some protection against retaliation.
HR: Oh haha yes here you go.
I just received a paper with legal letterhead and an apology saying there was no verbal warning or write up. Don't even take their shit you guys. Keep talking about wages. Know your worth. /End ID]
At one of my old (shit) jobs my boss would continually come have these verbal discussions with me and would never put anything in writing I took to summarizing every discussion we had in email. Like “just to confirm that you asked me to do X by Y date and you understand that means I won’t be able to complete the previous task you gave me until Z date - 2 weeks later than originally scheduled - because you want me to prioritize this new project.
The woman would then storm back into my office screaming at me for putting the discussion in writing and arguing about pushing back the other project or whatever. At which point I would summarize that conversation in email as well. Which would bring her storming back in, rinse and repeat ad nauseum.
Anyway I cannot imagine how badly that job would have gone if I hadn’t put all her wildly unreasonable demands in writing. Bitch still hated me but she could never hang me for “missing deadlines” because I always had in writing that she’d pushed the project back because she wanted something else done first.
Paper your asses babes. Do not let them get away with shit. If they won’t put what they’re asking you to do in writing then write it up yourself and email it to them.
And remember, if you need to, you can always play dumb with HR to get stuff in writing. Like this. This is a situation that almost happened at my old job, but didn’t because I used the phrase “religious discrimination” out loud. If the situation had persisted, however:
ME TO HR: hey, I wanted to get clarification on a policy. Manager X told me to remove my Star of David necklace because making a statement about my religion could offend customers, but there are a lot of people who wear crosses and saints’ medals here. Has the policy on warehouse-safe jewelry been changed since I started?
HR, PROBABLY: [insert the safety policy about jewelry]
ME: oh, I totally understand. That’s why I wear mine as a choker. I’m just wondering if there’s a policy on no religious jewelry, because there wasn’t when I started.
HR, PROBABLY: [something about offensive language and symbols goes here]
ME: okay. So to clarify, a Star of David is considered offensive?
HR has two options here: they can say there’s a ban on all religious jewelry (in which case they have to get Manager X to enforce it, and if he doesn’t, I have a case for religious discrimination), or they can say no, there’s no such ban as long as the jewelry meets the safety requirements, and speak with Manager X. If it’s the latter and he continues to push for me—and only me—to remove my necklace, I have a case for religious discrimination.
Or I get to wear my necklace and everyone else gets to wear their crosses and rosaries and saints’ medals and whatever, and we’re all happy.
You can always. ALWAYS. Play dumb.
I will always add the follow up to this.
10k enemies to lovers slow burn
Bront redemption arc
This isn't even a hate message this is just the funniest possible thing in the universe. I'm losing my shit laughing right now
you can have characters in your mind! But watch out
They will move in forever and they wont even pay rent
The success of Threads is fascinating because after all the nonsense that Mark Zuckerberg has pulled Elon Musk has done such a terrible job of running Twitter that people are making a mad dash back to Zuckerberg being all like "We forgive you! We didn't know how good we had it until this wacko set your biggest rival on fire! Exploit our data again! Manipulate views! Destroy entire industries! Waste billions trying to make V.R. a thing! Turn our parents against us! Please anything... save us from the mad king Elon!"
richard siken saying he’s team destiel felt like the dvd sign slotting into the screen corner in my brain
